What to remember when you want to be a “Aesthetic mom”

With social media it is so easy to see other moms being so aesthetic, having the cutest outfits, and having beautiful things that all compliment each other. There houses should be on tv and are picture perfect. It’s so easy to get lost in the envy of wanting your home to look that. or to have that piece of decor or those pants.

It’s way to simple to fall down into the rabbit hole of wanting to be want we see on line and keep up with the jones we see on Instagram. It can eat you up.

I know it has for me. I love to look for inspiration for on insta or Pinterest, but I find my self sometimes having a pity party. Oh I wish my kitchen looked like that. I wish I could afford to buy those shorts right now. Man, I wish my play room looked like that.

How is that helpful? To you or your kids? It just isn’t. It is unbiblical, it is useless and just harmful. God does not want us to covet what our neighbor has and keep up with the Jones’. He wants us to be happy with what we have and live a life to honor Him.

This is more important than focusing on what Jane has. Now these people DO NOT post to make you feel crappy. They post to share and inspire. But sometimes we can take it the wrong way and get lost in the wants of our hearts.

I am totally guilty of this, which is why I know it isn’t helpful and it is just more damaging then it is uplifting. But the nice thing is it is all up to you to fix. It is not Jane’s fault she has a beautiful home and kitchen that I love.

But it is on me for being envious of Jane and being upset with my kitchen. But there is nothing wrong with my kitchen, in reality I love my kitchen. It is cute, function and a space in the home that I make memories with my kids each day. that is what you need. You need to remember that it is doing its job and it is serving you as it should.

There are no studies showing that having the cutest aesthetic will help you be your best you or that it makes your kids become good people. It is way more important to be present and to give your kids a happy mom.

Now don’t get me wrong, there isn’t something wrong with you for wanting your space to resemble you and have it be cute. But it is counter productive to sit in envy and want for things you do not have. If you want that cute couch, or a new blanket. That’s okay!

Save and slowly by surely make the space you’re in reflect you. The issues are drowning in desire to be someone else and look like them. I have vision for what I want our playroom to look like but I can not afford to splurge and revamp it right now.

BUT I do have the funds that I can by something one paycheck at a time, or to put something aside every month for it. Yes, this will take a minute. Probably 6 months, but that doesn’t matter. Our playroom still works. It still is a space where our kids play.

My kids do not care that our playroom doesn’t look like what mom wants it to. They care that they can play. That they can be kids. Our yard is a blank slant and mostly just dirt. Man oh man do I have plans for that yard. But do my kids care no… We have made SO many beautiful memories in that yard.

Will they love it when I have the playground set up, yes. Do they love just playing in the dirt? Also yes!!!!

What is more important momma is to be there. Be present, make memories and worry about making it cute as you go. There is nothing wrong with wanting it cute. But there is something wrong with not making memories and being sad because you don’t have the cutest kitchen on the block.

We are raising children not a house, not a vibe, not an aesthetic, not an instagram. We should remember where the Lord wants our priorities raising good kids. The house can be picture perfect later in life. Soak up this messy and quick season.

God does not want us to envy our neighbor. It does NOTHING for you. Do not let it suck your precious time and energy. You are beautiful and you got this momma!

*all of the photos in this blog post are pictures that I thought about not posting because they do not fit the aesthetic I pictured in my mind. But screw that I think they are so cute and should be shared.